donot

My 16-year-old won’t clean their room. Should I make them? I hate a messy house.

How messy is messy? If we’re talking unhealthy with food wrapper or wet towels, intercede and set up the clear parameters with them for what’s allowed and what’s not. If it’s just regular messy, then you need to walk away and shut the door. We all need some private space and setting expectations for everyone in the family to clean the shared space is great but I think some creative mess is ok in their personal space.